Why Is He Trippin’?
March 4, 2013
He needs space. He says things are not working out. He feels stress and over whelmed. He says you’re getting in the way of what he is trying to pursue in life. He says he loves you but he is not happy. He needs space but doesn’t know for how long. You’re always nagging and complaining. He says it’s not you, it’s him. He’s just not ready for commitment. He says you deserve someone better than him. It’s just not working out.
After all you have done for him and all that you put up with, now you have to deal with this heart ache, this pain of losing someone you love. You stalk his Twitter, you stalk his Facebook, check to see who’s that young ass girl liking all his statuses (Ok, ok… I’m speaking from experience. So what?) Sleepless nights, swollen eyes, loss of appetite, hair’s a mess, legs not shaved, you developed a unibrow, you don’t want to go out with your friends, you just want to be left alone.
But one day you get up, put on your best “fuck him” outfit. Strap that S on your chest nice and tight, get your home girls together, go out and get your groove back like Stella.
Just when he is out of sight and out of mind… then it begins.
Your Ex who broke up with you because things weren’t working out for him starts trippin’.
Signs that he’s trippin’ after the break up:
1. Randomly calls or a.k.a. “pocket dials you” at ungodly hours to see if you pick up (or if you’re with someone)
2. Texts you to ask you if you remember the last time he wore his Blue and White Shirt
3. Heard from a friend that you was out with a guy so he texts you to “jokingly” ask if you have a new boyfriend
4. Drunk calls or texts and asks if you remember certain sex acts and asks you if you would like to reenact them (even if they themselves have a new girl)
5. Friend request all your friends on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to see what’s going on with you
6. Calls you during a hurricane, snow storm, or any crazy Mother Nature disaster to see “if you need anything”
Oh, and my favorite,
7. Texts you and say, “Hey I had this crazy dream about you”
I’m pretty sure I can go on and on and on. Right when you have put yourself together and have gone on with your life here comes your ex all in your face.
But the Magic question is?? Why are these guys trippin’? Why do they even care?
When a man is still trippin over his ex, it’s because he still has feelings for her I believe that he has come to the realization that the old saying, “you don’t know a good thing till it’s gone,” is actually true. And its killing him knowing someone else is having sex. The thought of you having sex with someone else will send him trippin’. “No dude, this is not your pussy any more. Sorry.” (Quoting myself. LOL)
Ladies, Although it feels great and it’s also very entertaining to see those trippin’ text messages from your ex and to see his number pop up on your phone talking about, “Hey what’s up? I just had a dream about you,” you cannot fall for the bullshit. He may not want you back. It’s just his ego trippin’ over the fact that you’re over him and he’s still not over you.
Every relationship requires work. No relationship is perfect. A healthy relationship requires communication, understanding, compromise, and most importantly, a relationship is selfless. Don’t give in to his trippin’. If he wasn’t adult enough to work on your relationship when you were together, then you shouldn’t give him the time of day to allow his trippin’ to interfere with your life after you put yourself together.
You are a woman, you are strong and you are beautiful. Remember you were important before him, during him and you will be important after him.